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Sandra and Selmor sad down with DJ Ollah today to discuss their life experiences and controversy surrounding the aftermath of their fathers death.
Sandra explained that she was left by her father and step mother when she was just 16 to live alone and figure out her life.
One user who was touched by her story wrote
Ladies my heart breaks for you. I resisted many a times to comment as I didn’t want to project but I need to say this. Please girls your true healing will come when you fully come away from idolising your dad like he was a victim of his wife. Girls I understand. I too was once with a step mum with a father who would sneak money to us kumashure not wanting her to know.
Trust me it would be easy to put all responsibility on the bad step mum but truth is your father ENABLED IT!!!! I’m so sorry that the truth can be painful- he knew you were mistreated, he knew it. He saw it. He was complicit in your abuse. You’re potentially sharing all this fighting the wrong was. He is more much more guilty than Daisy. Yes acknowledge Daisy’s abuse and grieve but don’t make excuses for your father who enabled it. I pray you get good therapy to help you.
You need to learn about narcissistic family dynamics. He had many chances while in good health to assert kumukadzi akauya muripo kuti these are my kids take it or leave it. We blame mamhepo etc but let me tell u something. This tuku generation most of them did this.
We need to pray for such patterns to be abolished. Sorry girls your dad is the one who let this happen. Once you accept this you will not have Shungu. Also about the other kids, ladies you’re grown. Thank God you are now mothers and wives in your own right why be pained about other adult kids who want their own life??? Why fight to stay in a toxic family? Yes it’s painful but once you move past it you will find true peace.
Why fight for unity now when your dad when he was alive didn’t facilitate it for example meeting you all girls and feeling you to lie that you got to the house separate??? I pray for you both and I am glad you have each other. I’m so sorry he was a coward who chose a woman and wanted to eat both sides ….. look like a hero to you and look like a devoted lover to his wife. I pray you open your eyes, grieve the idea of a father you never had and move forward.
You want to take flowers to your dad’s gave DO IT! If they want to do it alone LEAVE them! Why fight to be one when others don’t want. Why fight to be in the camp you are not wanted? I say this respectfully